What relationships have a positive impact on you?

My Parents

My parents have been my guiding lamps at every stage of my life, a light that continues to shine even today. Through every trial and every ease, they have stood by me, consistently encouraging me to strive for better and to rise above myself. Much of what I carry within me today was taught not through words, but through their actions. Though my mother and father are profoundly different, the lessons they imparted never contradicted one another; instead, they complemented each other beautifully.

The person I am today and the person I continue to strive to become is a reflection of their upbringing. Any shortcomings I possess are not a failure of their guidance, but of my own moments of misunderstanding or inattention to their advice and care. Words fall short in expressing my gratitude to the two most important people in my life: those who brought me into this world and awakened me to its purpose. They are not merely my biological parents, but my spiritual teachers. These are blessings I pray I never take for granted, and blessings I hope to pass on to my own children.

I pray that Allah is pleased with my parents, that He overlooks their shortcomings, and that He envelops them in His mercy, just as they showed mercy to me when I was small. Ameen.

My Husband

My husband chose me when we were both still young uncertain about life and yet certain about one thing: our marriage Alhamdulilah.

While still in his teenage years, before truly experiencing the world, he made the courageous decision to ask my parents for my hand. My parents, protective of their daughter and wary of fleeting intentions, tested his resolve to ensure this was not merely a phase. Alhamdulillah, he did not waver. He remained present, serious, and steadfast, until their hearts were put at ease and they accepted him.

Alhamdulillah, fifteen years later and with four children between us, we are still standing together. He has been with me through every season through my childishness, and through my awakening to it 😆. In all our years together, despite a journey that has been far from smooth, he has never once uttered the word divorce. He stood by me in my lowest moments and supported me through and through.

He is the quiet strength in my life, the constant presence that never abandons me, even when I abandon myself. He is there when I arrive with my wild plans and restless ideas. Allah sent him to anchor me, to balance me, for without him I would surely have wandered into many unpleasant places. Through him, I learned patience: to wait for what I want, to resist instant gratification, and to act with deliberation and trust in Allah’s timing.

He is a humble soul who never seeks recognition for what he does. People are naturally drawn to him; hearts incline toward him without effort. He is a server by nature, someone who finds joy in making life easier for others. Skilled, talented, and resourceful, he is the one people turn to when something needs fixing, solving, or understanding. Wherever he goes, there is almost always someone who can say, “He once helped me.” Young or old, known or unknown; his service leaves traces behind him.

The Habibs of Tarim have taught us that in the confusion and hardship of the end of times, salvation lies in sincere service to others. Serving people quietly and selflessly is a protection for one’s faith in difficult times. My husband lives this teaching without naming it, embodying it through action rather than words.

I pray that I am a grateful wife, and that I can be for him even half of what he has been for me. I ask Allah to preserve him for me in this world and to reunite us in Jannatul Firdaus. I pray that every person he has served stands as a witness for him on the Day of Judgement, and that Allah grants him entry into Jannatul Firdaus without reckoning. Ameen.

My Children

When I became pregnant with my first child at the age of twenty-three, I was suddenly confronted with the reality of motherhood and the immense responsibility it carries. I realised I still had much growing to do myself, and that I was now entrusted with nurturing a human being both physically and spiritually. With this awareness, I turned to what I knew best: seeking knowledge, educating myself, and surrounding myself with those I believed had raised their children with wisdom and care.

Despite my efforts and vigilance, I made many mistakes and continue to do so on this journey of motherhood.

Alhamdulillah, Allah does not require perfection from us. He grants blessings not because we have reached a certain level, but out of His mercy. My twenty-three-year-old self did not yet understand this; I believed I had to get everything right and protect my children from every harm. With time, I learned that true protection comes only from Allah. While He places responsibility upon us, success and safety are ultimately in His hands, for nothing is achieved without Him.

My children became the reason I wanted to be a good mother, and therefore a better person. They became my inspiration and my reminder to persevere and never give up. Through them, Allah granted me a chance to begin life anew, to witness innocence, to guide growth, and to nurture with intention. Through motherhood, I learned to reparent myself in adulthood, to sacrifice, to cultivate patience, to practice empathy, and to love unconditionally. Through my children, I came to truly understand my own mother’s love for me.

They pushed me to confront my shortcomings so they would not inherit them, and to cultivate good habits so they might follow them even though I remain a work in progress. They taught me to value time, to seek good company, and to choose uplifting environments for both them and myself. They are my cheerleaders, encouraging me to pursue my dreams and passions, walking beside me on my path without ever needing an invitation.

I am endlessly grateful for my children, and I pray that I become the mother Allah wants me to be for them. I pray Allah forgives me for the mistakes I’ve done and hope they’re not impacted by those. I ask Allah to protect them and to grant them entry into Jannatul Firdaus. Ameen.

My Spiritual Teachers

I am deeply grateful for my spiritual teachers; those who guide me both openly and silently. I recognise this guidance as a gift from Allah, who led me to seek from them. I pray that I absorb their wisdom sincerely and that I am able to pass it on, in whatever capacity Allah allows, to the Ummah of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

My Loved Ones

Among the greatest blessings in my life is My Eldest Sister, who has been my steadfast support through every hardship and ease. She raised my children alongside me, and they see her as a Mother. Though she is only a year older than me, she has been mothering me for years often without my realising it. I am deeply indebted to her, knowing I can never truly repay what she has given and continues to give. I pray that Allah repays her in the only way worthy through His infinite generosity. I ask Allah to count her among His special servants in both worlds and to grant her entry into Jannah without reckoning. Ameen.

My other siblings, each in their own way, have also shaped my life. From the youngest to the eldest, every one of them has left an imprint on my heart. I pray that I am able to give to them what they have given to me before I leave this world. Ameen.

Then there are my cousins; my extended sisters each of whom plays a unique and cherished role in my life. I am forever thankful to Allah for these remarkable people who support me and inspire me. Among them is a woman who leads us all with wisdom and love, who makes time for each of us in a way that makes every person feel uniquely cherished. This quality reflects one of the most beautiful characteristics of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, and she is truly a lover of the Beloved. Having her in our family is like possessing a rare gem; sought by many, granted to few. Alhamdulillah, through her we learn how to earn closeness to the Prophet ﷺ. I pray that we benefit immensely from her presence, that Allah grants her His pleasure in both worlds, and that she enjoys the blessed companionship of the Prophet ﷺ in the Hereafter. I pray that the Prophet ﷺ tells her how proud he is of her for spreading his love and teaching us how to live it. I ask Allah to grant her deep, lasting happiness and to protect her from sorrow in both worlds. Ameen.

Conclusion

I am eternally grateful for these people and for the many others I have not named who carried me when I did not even realize I needed to be carried. They have shaped who I am and continue to keep me in their prayers, the effects of which I witness manifesting in my life, Alhamdulillah.

I pray that I can be for them what they have been for me. And I pray that when I leave this world, I do so having impacted lives positively so that the earth I stood upon mourns my departure, the places I prayed in long for my sujood, and the people I impacted raise their hands in du‘a for my forgiveness. Ameen.

Until next time..

Peace be with you.